Matters of divorce have a major impact on the lives of those involved. Frequently, the effects are greater and deeper than people understand. Even beyond the initial experiences of heartbreak, legal and custody issues, to child-rearing, financial, and ‘rebounding’, there are complexities that include:
- sense of betrayal
- feelings of hurt, anger, resentment, and guilt
- disrupted self-esteem or confidence
- re-evaluation of ideas of love, marriage
- possible religious/spiritual re-evaluating
- managing identity shifts
- uncertainty about the future
- distrust – both of self and others
This means the process of recovering from divorce can take much longer than the legal process of divorce. Many are able to achieve a sense of normalcy and stability quickly, with some of these nuances not showing up for years, until they create challenges in new relationships. Having support to heal these issues and keep them in awareness can minimize pain and struggle and contribute to greater freedom and healthier relationships as you move forward in life.
You do not have to navigate these challenges alone. I can help you address these issues in therapy. I have learned from my own experiences with divorce and maintaining friendly contact with my ex husband. I have done research on the unique factors that make the grief of divorce different from other losses. I can hold compassion through your transition journey and provide perspective to help you reconnect and forge a strong relationship with yourself. Statistics show second and third marriages have significantly higher chances of ending in divorce. The patterns that keep ourselves stuck, the defensive protections against further hurt, can end up costing us more in the long run. Counseling can provide you with the support to live with authenticity and courage in vulnerable emotions to promote healthier relationships in your future.
Don’t just give all your money to the lawyers; you deserve more. They might get you a settlement, but I can help you find closure.