There is an abundance of information, resources, and tools available in our society today. It can be overwhelming to search through them all and find the ones that speak to you! Here are some of the various books, apps, resources, and supports available I consider useful. Check back for periodic updates.
Unwinding Anxiety – Judson A. Brewer
Dr. Brewer does a nice job explaining the addictive nature of anxiety, and brings together tools of identification, mindfulness, and curiosity to overcome not just anxiety, but other unwanted habit loops as well, supported by research. A good synopsis is available here.
Hold Me Tight – Sue Johnson
This is a great book for introduction of attachment theory in adult relationships. It has familiar examples of relational strife and conversation guidance questions to help couples see the dynamics beneath the conflicts and distance in the relationship. It may be a helpful tool to start in on difficult healing process or as an accompaniment to therapy to continue the work between sessions. While I am not directly familiar, she has additional program online.
The Four Agreements – Don Miguel Ruiz
A simple read, it would be easy to go through this one ‘too quickly’ to grasp all its wisdom. The Agreements Ruiz poses are lessons frequently addressed in therapy using different words. The process of embracing the Agreements for yourself is a path to freedom from reacting and peace of authenticity. It’s a nice supplement to therapy and a reminder to review during the hard times. For a brief synopsis of the agreements, there’s a 4-page write-up you can download here.
Apps and Tools
What it is: A short series of prompts in mindfulness to help you slow your thoughts, based on a webpage so it can be saved to your home screen on your phone or used on any device. No downloads required.
Who it’s for: Anyone who sometimes gets overwhelmed or caught up in things and needs to take a break and regain perspective (Everyone!)
Why I created it: The concepts of mindfulness are simple, but in moments of stress, having some guidance to help regather ourselves is helpful. I had a client ask how to help ground himself when he wasn’t in the room with me to guide him, so this web script is the resultant offer. The prompts used are similar to DBT calming techniques.
Links and Support Sites
Adult Children of Alcoholics
All Treatment – Resources for Alcohol and Drug Addictions
DomesticViolence.org – information on the cycle of violence and safety planning
TheHotline.org – crisis support and education about Domestic Violence and Abuse
Next Door: Solutions to Domestic Violence
Meetup.com – Wonderful resource for creating social connections and community, centered around your interests